11 Painful Diary Quotes from my Worst Years (and what I learned from each of them)
Jan11

11 Painful Diary Quotes from my Worst Years (and what I learned from each of them)

What’s the best thing about keeping a diary through the bad years? Someday you read it back and realise how many lessons you’ve learned. I’ve kept a diary for most of my life: sometimes every single day, sometimes just on holidays as a child, and sometimes as a ‘private blog’ kept in a Word document I updated every few weeks. The last one is probably my favourite to look back on. It went into a ton of depth when I kept it.   If I...

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Anger and growing up: ten tips to beat it
Jun17

Anger and growing up: ten tips to beat it

Some years ago, I smashed up our family’s shower head because it wasn’t doing what I wanted. Looking back, I probably should have dealt with it better. Impulses do have their uses- if you need to jump out of oncoming traffic, for example, you want to be fast and decisive. But when it comes to anger and frustration, impulses often convince us to make bad choices… and then have to deal with the stinging regret afterwards. And, in...

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How do I stop my child using autism as an excuse?
Feb22

How do I stop my child using autism as an excuse?

I didn’t expect to be asked this question as often as I have been. It’s a tricky one to even ask. After all, autism really does affect children in extremely serious ways. And parents are often swamped by ignorant people accusing them of labelling their children to excuse their bad behaviour (which is a disgusting accusation to make, by the way). The words “autism” and “excuse” look so, so ugly together that I was reluctant even to...

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We asked children across the autism spectrum: “What do you love most about life?” Here are their answers.
Jan19

We asked children across the autism spectrum: “What do you love most about life?” Here are their answers.

Note- this article has now been adapted, improved tenfold, and turned into a book! Info can be found on the page for the (successfully funded) Kickstarter campaign, but copies can now be obtained by simply sending me a Facebook message! Chris   Here’s an article to cheer you up! Remember “200 Things to Love About Life“? Well, that was written from my adult Asperger’s perspective, and I’m very aware...

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Five ways to damage autistic children without even knowing
Jan04

Five ways to damage autistic children without even knowing

Yep, uncomfortable title. But sadly, these are subjects that I feel we have a responsibility to talk about.   Today, I’m going to share some habits that I’ve seen in a wide variety of contexts: some of them in my career in education (mainstream and special), some of them from people dealing with me as a man with Asperger Syndrome, some of them I’ve seen in the form of internet comments, and so on. Although often...

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Conversations with my younger autistic selves
Sep14

Conversations with my younger autistic selves

Warning: this article made a few of my friends cry. In a good way, thankfully.   Today is my thirtieth birthday. And, since I’m the oldest in my group of friends by a few months, they all insist that I’m getting old. I’m not going to pretend that they’re right. I’m not even halfway to being dead (God willing).   But I do have a lot to look back on. One of the only advantages about having no job stability is that it means...

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Asperger’s versus the Bullies: 8 Important Tips for Coping with Bullying
Jun22

Asperger’s versus the Bullies: 8 Important Tips for Coping with Bullying

This may turn out to be the most important article I have ever written. And it may not be light reading: powerful subjects need powerful words. Teenagers, this one’s for you again. The story of Kennedy, sadly, is not a unique one.   Kennedy LeRoy, a 16-year-old student from Chino Hills, California, had Asperger Syndrome and suffered from bullying. He was an extremely compassionate young man who loved helping other people....

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When should I tell my child they’re autistic, and how do I tell them?
Jun03

When should I tell my child they’re autistic, and how do I tell them?

As the title implies, this one’s a two-parter. Let’s start with the ‘when’. When should I tell my child they’re autistic? Of all the questions that I’ve seen posted on autism blogs or Facebook pages, this is one of the most common. As someone who grew up with Asperger’s, and an ex-teacher who taught many autistic children, here’s my own perspective on it. There are two groups I see popping up when the “breaking the news” question is...

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Ten reasons your autistic child needs to learn chess right now
May24

Ten reasons your autistic child needs to learn chess right now

Ah, chess. The game of kings… and Aspies.   Now, before I begin, I expect a few readers will come up with the following reasons for their autistic child to not learn chess. Oh, he’ll just throw the board across the room if he loses. Oh, she won’t have the patience for it. Oh, he’s not got the brains to become really good at it. Oh, she’ll find it boring. My responses are as follows: Chess is not an impulsive game. That’s...

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Story of an Autistic Teacher: encouraging Aspies beyond their ‘natural limits’
May07

Story of an Autistic Teacher: encouraging Aspies beyond their ‘natural limits’

I usually make my posts very personal. I think the human element is extremely important. This may be one of the more difficult posts to write. Because this one doesn’t just describe my brain. It tells my story. So, here we go.   Before I left teaching last Christmas, I had played just about every role you can play in education- or, at least, the roles you can play in your twenties. I had been a volunteer. I had been a teaching...

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