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Question from Tanja via the Patreon supporters' group:
"In recent weeks, my daughter has become increasingly sensitive and has experienced multiple melt-downs at school and at home, and this is escalating. Things she was able to cope with are now adding up and “get to her”, and she is on edge all the time.
At first I thought that problems within her friendship group (between other members, not with her) combined with teenage hormones & sensitivities are to blame for this development. However, the problem has become worse even during half-term. Having been unwell doesn’t help either, but after her breakdown in the car this morning on the way to school, I thought I ask you all for advice and any ideas about what could help her or what the school could offer her (I have sent her Student Support Officer an email, too).
- Hannah struggles more and more to socialise with anyone, even with her friends.
- Hannah says she cannot communicate verbally with her friends in any meaningful way, because her brain is “shutting down” and not letting her.
- Hannah cannot cope with or tolerate any kind of crowd (touch / noise).
- Hannah struggles more than ever with short notice changes (such as cover lessons) and any kind of unforeseen situations.
Not only does she struggle in the corridors between lessons, but her break and lunch times are especially torturous. She says she finds herself wandering around in the school, because she cannot bear the busy playgrounds or cafeteria. Her friends, who have different lessons to her, meet either in the playground or in the cafeteria. Hannah cannot join them, because she can’t bear going there, and feels increasingly isolated, very lonely and missing out. She tried to explain to them why she needed to move to different places, but her friends do not understand her problems, and refuse to leave with her. So she then goes off on her own, wandering around being upset with herself and the fact that she can’t overcome the sensory and communication problems, that stop her from connecting with her friends.
She doesn't want me or the school to speak to her friends, because she doesn’t want them to feel pressured to "help her" - neither is she able to communicate effectively with them, and therefore not able to persuade them to join her somewhere quiet at least every now and then.
The school has given her a Time Out Pass which she can use to get out of a lesson if she becomes overwhelmed, and this has helped her a little bit in recent weeks.
I have asked the school if there are any “quiet zones” in the school, a place where she could go to (with a friend or two) during break and lunch times, but there are none apparently. The library is apparently out of bounds because it is only open to Year 11s during those times.
From your collective experience, is that something that will pass or find its own solutions? This is now affecting her general health and her mental health, and I am at my wits’ end. She is very open with me, but also very negative and dismisses the idea, that there’s anything anybody, the school or her friends could do to help her.
Many thanks for reading all this! I hope someone can share an idea or two, I really want to help my girl!" ... See MoreSee Less
Today's Awesome Story:
"My son Rafe loves elevators. He knows so much about them that he always impresses the experts. He also loves emergency alert systems and his knowledge on the different devices, etc is amazing to all. For his 10th birthday, we stayed at a local hotel he was dying to stay in. They upgraded our room and gave him a grand tour of their elevators and sent goodies with a gift up to our room. When we were on a cruise, Rafe was invited to tour the ship’s elevators as well. Because his interests are out of the ordinary for a child, Rafe struggles socially. But his special interests make him exceptional in the eyes of his family and friends, and we know that he’s headed for big things."
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Me and my patrons recently joked about an "Autistic Not Weird drinking game", and one of the first suggested rules was "take a drink every time Chris uses the phrase 'play to your strengths'." ;)
I make no apologies for repeatedly talking about that philosophy. It's so important. ... See MoreSee Less