Why autistic people struggle with comfort zones, and what can be done about it
Feb19

Why autistic people struggle with comfort zones, and what can be done about it

I’ll admit it: this is one article I procrastinated the hell out of. Because it’s painful on a personal level. Nonetheless, I get plenty of messages about this topic through Autistic Not Weird’s Facebook community [all links open in new windows], so I’ve wanted to write it for a while. And since my Patreon backers voted for it to be the subject of my next article, it’s time to take the plunge!   I have always known how to be...

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11 Painful Diary Quotes from my Worst Years (and what I learned from each of them)
Jan11

11 Painful Diary Quotes from my Worst Years (and what I learned from each of them)

What’s the best thing about keeping a diary through the bad years? Someday you read it back and realise how many lessons you’ve learned. I’ve kept a diary for most of my life: sometimes every single day, sometimes just on holidays as a child, and sometimes as a ‘private blog’ kept in a Word document I updated every few weeks. The last one is probably my favourite to look back on. It went into a ton of depth when I kept it.   If I...

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How to Raise ACTUAL Autism Awareness
Nov30

How to Raise ACTUAL Autism Awareness

Remember when we all changed our profile pictures to ribbons, and it cured cancer? No, me neither.     The phrase “raising awareness” gets banded around on the internet a lot these days. It’s an extremely well-known idea and if you find the right cause, half the world can jump on board. It can even be as simple as taking the right selfie or pouring water over your head. On the one hand, such online crazes can make enormous...

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I’m ever so sorry. I really DON’T look autistic.
Sep22

I’m ever so sorry. I really DON’T look autistic.

*DANGER- this article contains enormous doses of sarcasm, irony, and may contain nuts.* I know we’re not supposed to judge people by their appearances. But people tend to make exceptions for autistic people. I know this because whenever you tell me I “don’t look autistic”, what you’re saying is I’m not matching your expectations of what an autistic person is supposed to look like. And I know I’m baffling those expectations in daring...

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Anger and growing up: ten tips to beat it
Jun17

Anger and growing up: ten tips to beat it

Some years ago, I smashed up our family’s shower head because it wasn’t doing what I wanted. Looking back, I probably should have dealt with it better. Impulses do have their uses- if you need to jump out of oncoming traffic, for example, you want to be fast and decisive. But when it comes to anger and frustration, impulses often convince us to make bad choices… and then have to deal with the stinging regret afterwards. And, in...

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What to do when your family doesn’t accept autism
Mar09

What to do when your family doesn’t accept autism

“My parents don’t accept that I am (or my child is) autistic. What should I do?” This question ranks pretty high on the most frequently asked list. We just recently had a discussion about it on Autistic Not Weird’s Facebook page, and I think it’s about time I wrote a full article. (All links open in new windows, by the way.) Most of us are used to people misunderstanding our autistic selves or relatives, but this is often from people...

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How do I stop my child using autism as an excuse?
Feb22

How do I stop my child using autism as an excuse?

I didn’t expect to be asked this question as often as I have been. It’s a tricky one to even ask. After all, autism really does affect children in extremely serious ways. And parents are often swamped by ignorant people accusing them of labelling their children to excuse their bad behaviour (which is a disgusting accusation to make, by the way). The words “autism” and “excuse” look so, so ugly together that I was reluctant even to...

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A plea to the autism community, from one of your own
Jan31

A plea to the autism community, from one of your own

Please approach this article honestly, because it’s something we all need to do. Regardless of how difficult it is.   Please stop arguing. I’m serious. Please stop. It’s embarrassing to watch. More to the point, it damages the people we love. Not long ago, I uploaded the picture below to Autistic Not Weird’s Facebook page [links always open in new windows], partly to vent a little frustration. The reaction from the community was...

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We asked children across the autism spectrum: “What do you love most about life?” Here are their answers.
Jan19

We asked children across the autism spectrum: “What do you love most about life?” Here are their answers.

Note- this article has now been adapted, improved tenfold, and turned into a book! Info can be found on the page for the (successfully funded) Kickstarter campaign, but copies can now be obtained by simply sending me a Facebook message! Chris   Here’s an article to cheer you up! Remember “200 Things to Love About Life“? Well, that was written from my adult Asperger’s perspective, and I’m very aware...

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Five ways to damage autistic children without even knowing
Jan04

Five ways to damage autistic children without even knowing

Yep, uncomfortable title. But sadly, these are subjects that I feel we have a responsibility to talk about.   Today, I’m going to share some habits that I’ve seen in a wide variety of contexts: some of them in my career in education (mainstream and special), some of them from people dealing with me as a man with Asperger Syndrome, some of them I’ve seen in the form of internet comments, and so on. Although often...

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